No Name-Calling Week

“Loser.” “Dork.” “Sissy.”

These words aim to hurt and most children say them because they think it makes them look cool in front of others.

Think back to when you were in school – were you called names by your classmates that made you feel bad about yourself? Some kids are taunted for things such as being too quiet, having red hair, being too tall or too short, or because they make all A’s. Verbal abuse can leave kids feeling insecure and rejected.

In honor of No Name-Calling Week, Jan. 23-27, 2012, Hubbard House would like to encourage all parents to talk to their children about how their words can hurt others.

No Name-Calling Week was inspired by “The Misfits,” a young adult novel by James Howe. Four friends in the seventh grade were the victims of verbal abuse because of their weight, height, intelligence, and sexual orientation/gender expression. The friends created a political party during student council election and aimed at ending name-calling of all kinds. In the end, the friends win the support of the school’s principal and their idea for a No Name-Calling Day.

Using this book as a motivator, No Name-Calling Week was created by GLSEN and Simon & Schuster Children’s publishing. The week was promoted to schools across the nation. No Name-Calling Week seeks to focus national attention on the problems with name-calling, and to provide students with the tools and inspiration to eliminate name-calling, bullying and harassment in their communities.

As a parent, you can do your part by remembering that you are your child’s role model – your children learn from your behaviors. Promoting no name-calling at home will help keep your children from becoming a bully. You can help by doing the following:

• Be a good role model. Don’t call people names. Say you disapprove when you hear someone putting down another person.
• Voice your disappointment if your child has taunted someone. Make them apologize.
• Express your concern if your child has been taunted. Help by reflecting on why kids do this. And talk about ways of coping.
• Teach that name-calling hurts everyone. Doing it—or tolerating it—undercuts our integrity and humanity.
• Foster empathy. Always encourage your child to think how it might feel to be in another’s shoe.

Information was received from No Name-Calling Week, www.namecallingweek.org and Teach Empathy to Eliminate Name-Calling, www.schoolfamily.com.

For more information on No Name-Calling Week or how to start a No Name-Calling Week program in your school, visit www.namecallingweek.org.

If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship please call the Hubbard House hotline at (904) 354-3114 or (800) 500-1119. Hubbard House can help.

ABOUT HUBBARD HOUSE: Founded as the first domestic violence shelter in Florida in 1976, Hubbard House is a certified, comprehensive domestic violence center providing programs and services to more than 6,000 women, children, and men annually in Duval and Baker counties. While Hubbard House is most known for its emergency shelter, the agency also provides extensive adult and youth outreach services, school-based education, therapeutic childcare, batterers’ intervention programs, court advocacy and volunteer and community education opportunities. Visit www.hubbardhouse.org to learn more.

By Lindsay Van-Zant

January is National Stalking Awareness Month

3.4 million people over the age of 18 are stalked each year in the United States. Hubbard House, the domestic violence center serving Duval and Baker counties, wants people to understand that stalking is a dangerous crime.

The Stalking Resource Center, National Center for Victims of Crime, and the Office on Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice, knows that if we understand the facts we can do more to stop stalking which is why they launched National Stalking Awareness Month (NSAM) in January 2004.

NSAM enables communities across the country to focus on stalking – holding events, sharing information, and building awareness about the crime. Stalking is defined by the National Center for Victims of Crime as a course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear.

With the advances in technology, cyberstalking has become more common than ever. It shares many characteristics with real-life stalking, as its purpose is to cause fear in a specified individual. Cyberstalkers may use information acquired online to further intimidate, harass, and threaten their victim via courier mail, phone calls, and physically appearing at a residence or work place.

Did You Know?

• 46% of stalking victims fear not knowing what will happen next
• 78% of stalkers use more than one means of approach
• 1 in 4 victims reported being stalked through some technological means (such as e-mail or instant messaging)
• 30% of stalking victims are stalked by a current or former intimate partner
• Women are three times more likely to be stalked than men
• Persons aged 18-24 years experience the highest rate of stalking

Things Stalkers Will Do:

• Send unwanted gifts, letters, cards, or e-mails
• Repeatedly call you, including hang-ups
• Follow you and show up wherever you are
• Threaten to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets
•  Other actions that control, track, or frighten you

Stalking is unpredictable and dangerous. No two situations are ever the same. Stalking laws have been put in place in all 50 states but less than 1/3 of states classify stalking as a felony upon first offense.

Information and statistics from National Center for Victims of Crime, www.ncvc.org.

If you or someone you know is being stalked, please call 1 (800) FYI-CALL (394-2255) or visit www.ncvc.org/src for more information.

If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship please call the Hubbard House hotline at (904) 354-3114 or (800) 500-1119. Hubbard House can help.

To find out more about National Stalking Awareness Month and stalking statistics visit www.stalkingawarenessmonth.org.

ABOUT HUBBARD HOUSE: Founded as the first domestic violence shelter in Florida in 1976, Hubbard House is a certified, comprehensive domestic violence center providing programs and services to more than 6,000 women, children, and men annually in Duval and Baker counties. While Hubbard House is most known for its emergency shelter, the agency also provides extensive adult and youth outreach services, school-based education, therapeutic childcare, batterers’ intervention programs, court advocacy and volunteer and community education opportunities. Visit www.hubbardhouse.org to learn more.

By Katherine Swanson